Pre-marriage test: Reveal the true face of your future spouse on holiday
You're dating a man with a capital M. He's truly your type and every moment spent with him is like something out of a fairy tale.
You've known each other for a while. You've dated in the city on walks, you've gone out to dinner, you've spent beautiful moments at the movies or in nature, but then you've each gone back to your apartment and spent time on your own.
You've even gotten to the point where you're picking out an imaginary model of a wedding dress, making up the names of your unborn children in your head, and taking inspiration online for a furnished apartment that might meet all the criteria for your shared love nest.
Yes, planning a wedding is an exciting journey full of experiences and anticipation.
But how do you really know if your beloved is a life partner or the material for a lasting union?
Well, on your first holiday together, which is one way to really get your eyes on him...it is only there that you will discover his true colors...
It's not about being sneaky or manipulative - it's about understanding how your potential partner handles stress, relaxation, and unexpected situations in life.
That's why, in this article, I wanted to dive into some fun and insightful ways to conduct this "pre-marital test" during the holidays...
1. The Packing Challenge
Test: Preparation before the trip
Does your partner pack carefully, or does he or she throw things in the bag at the last minute? This can tell you a lot about his or her organizational skills and preparedness.
Suggest that he pack separately and see how he handles it. Does he take all the things he needs, or does he forget his toothbrush? A fun life experience might be remembering when you went camping and he packed more snacks than clothes - definitely a sign of his priorities!
2. Travel Day
Test: Dealing with delays or cancellations
Trip interruptions are inevitable. How your partner handles them can reveal his patience and problem-solving ability.
Notice his reaction to a delayed flight or a long line at security. Is he calm and composed, or does he get upset? Share a personal anecdote when your flight was canceled and your partner made it a mini adventure while touring the airport.
3. Budget
Test: Financial proceedings
Money can be a big issue in a marriage. Observing spending habits on vacation can provide insight into financial compatibility.
Set a vacation budget and watch how your partner sticks to it. Is he or she spending on extravagance or making wise choices? Think of a time when you went on a trip with friends and your partner impressed everyone by finding bargains and managing spending money efficiently.
4. Adventure
Test: Spontaneity and flexibility
Life is unpredictable and a good partner should be flexible and spontaneous.
Plan an unplanned day - no itinerary, just go with the flow. How does your partner react? Is he or she excited or anxious? Tell a story about a spontaneous trip where your partner suggested a visit to a random town, which led to one of the best days of your vacation.
5. Relaxation
Test: Balance between activity and relaxation
Knowing how to balance activity and rest is essential to a healthy lifestyle.
Observe how your partner balances sightseeing and relaxation. Is he always on the move, or does he know when to rest? Share a fun experience where your partner insisted on seeing all the museums in town and fell asleep in the middle of the tour because he didn't schedule time to rest.
6. Conflicts
Test: Resolving Disagreements
Disagreements are natural, but how we resolve them matters.
If a disagreement arises during the trip, watch how your partner resolves it. Will he or she stay calm and try to resolve the conflict, or will it escalate? Think of a time when you disagreed about where to eat and how he or she suggested a compromise that ended up working for both of you.
And what is the verdict?
A holiday together can be a learning experience. It's an opportunity to see your partner in different scenarios and really understand their habits, reactions, and personality.
Remember, the goal is not to judge strictly, but to gain insight into what he or she might be like as a lifelong partner.
TIP: Open communication
Discuss your insights openly after the holiday. Share what you liked and areas where you think there could be improvement. This can strengthen your relationship and help you both grow together.
So pack your bags and head out on this adventure of discovery. Who knows? Maybe this particular vacation will confirm that your partner is indeed suited for marriage!
Have you considered such a test? Have you tried to check your partner's values and qualities in this way?
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